Monthly Archives: September 2015




So, we have trouble trusting? We don’t know how to trust self or others? Sounds like shame is running the show.


A very wise young man who is on a healing path out of shame said, “ the “T” word”. I didn’t know what he was referencing. We had been talking about trust. He was seeing how shame had impacted him and had interfered deeply with his ability to Trust. At this point in his healing he wasn’t even saying, “trust”. He was saying, “the T word.”


The statement captured how difficult it is to begin to trust when we have shame at our core. Most of us with shame have been betrayed by someone we had every right to believe we could trust. We turn that on self and feel like there must be something wrong with self, or the person would not have betrayed us. So our shame gets locked around a “betrayal bind.”


Repairing that betrayal bind requires learning to trust again. It can be terrifying. We take baby steps and we learn to build trust with trustworthy people. We learn how to take care of self so we are not so vulnerable to other people and their bad actions. We learn we are loveable and worthy. We start to trust our self and then learn to trust others. It is a process that helps move us out of the isolation and self- loathing. It is worth taking the risks, baby step by baby step.


Reminder: We move from the “T” word to Trust in self and then others. We learn to live in the world of people and relationships.

Time to start again

I am a life coach.  What I know works for me is to have some accountability.  So, I am holding myself accountable.  I have now been in the play.  We did it and it was amazing!!!  I learned about working in a team and coming to terms with my ego/shame.  I can memorize and that is lovely to know.  I had so much fun and worked so hard.  I did work on my book much at all.  That is fine.  I only have so much energy.  However, it is time to start again.

Tomorrow I will start working on my book again.  The flow had really started before I got so deep in rehearsals.  So, I will pick up that thread and get this book done!  My goal is to have it published next year.  I will have the first draft ready for editing by the end of this year.

I will keep you in the loop via this blog.  Just know that when I say I will do something, I do it!

Rock and roll!!!