The lovely part of healing our shame is learning to live in the strength and power of who we truly are. When shame leads the way we live in the shadow land of “should” and other peoples templates of what is right for us. As we continue to shed the shame we become more and more aware of our own personal truths. We begin to see what we feel and need and want and dream. As that “truth” leads the way we become more and more personally empowered to live out those truths.
One of the things that happens when we are little and shame becomes very established in our being we stop dreaming. We don’t think we are worthy of the dreams we have conjured up. We get told that we aren’t smart enough or good enough or worthy of these dreams. So, we let them go.
In my office I have often asked people what their dreams are, only to be met with a blank stare or unknowing. We loose a part of ourselves when we don’t dream.
My challenge to you is to take a long, meandering walk in a safe place where you don’t have to be really aware of your surroundings, and let your mind drift. Ask yourself: “what if I could do or be anything I wanted? What would that be?”
Jana Steinfield wrote and performs a song: “If I Were Brave”. In fact, this is the song I am singing this Sunday in the Pyromaniac Cafe that I mentioned a few blog posts ago. Go to You Tube and Google it. Listen to the words and let yourself dream you are brave.
Don’t scare yourself thinking now you have to or “should” do something about these dreams. Just start by letting yourself dream.